Deception - Essay

Deception is a something that almost everybody has to deal with at least once in their lives. It can destroy trust or end friendships, but it also helps you understand mistakes. Just over a year ago, two of my best friends went behind my back and deceived me. I trusted them in my house and felt security in leaving them alone in my room. I made a terrible mistake of letting them take advantage of my kindness. I believe that trust it is really hard to regain when someone has deceived you.

In my opinion, you will never regain someone's trust to the level that it was before you were betrayed. That isn't to say that you can't mend relationships, just that you can't go back in time to the place where that person was innocent of your ability to deceive them and never dreamed that you would hurt them. So you can regain trust, just not the absolute kind. The only way to rebuild that trust is to acknowledge what you destroyed with your actions, honestly apologize without excuse and be one hundred percent trustworthy from then on and suffer through as many bouts of doubt as the person you harmed must go through. In other words, no "that was a long time ago, can't you just get over it" avoidance. The ancient Hindu texts say that losing of trust is due to inconsistencies in mind. They can be improved with meditation and Yoga.

I know some cases where it worked out. Trust is something you earn. It is not readily given. One needs to work hard for it and work harder to maintain it. That is why, once you lost it, it's hard to recover from it. It was hard and I regretted it. We still remain friends but it was not the same. I was able to forgive but the friendship is no longer the same. It's either because I can't trust the way again or that person is somewhat a bit embarrassed now and there is already an invisible barrier between us. It's hard. That is why we need to be careful. It’s really hard to bring back the trust anyone broke. After all the things you've done just to...