Grief

Grief

In this life that we live in, we experience different situations and emotions that make us who we are individually. One emotion we all will experience at one time or another is grief. Grief can occur when we lose a loved one, or friend, and are in deep sorrow or distress from their death. Now, all people do not react the same way, but they do go through the different stages of grieving.  How does one respond to a loss of a close love one or best friend?
     It is a feeling that no one can describe. All type of questions goes through your head. You wonder if there was anything that you could have done to change it, any prayer that you could have prayed or anything that you could have said. All these questions go through our head during the time of grief and bereavement. It is stated that we go through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. I have found this to be very true.
     I recently experienced death myself, when my sister Charlene passed away September 26, 2011. It was complicated knowing that I would no longer have her to hold, laugh or just to talk with anymore. The last thing I would have ever imagined is I would be in this world without her. This was very hard for me to accept; I was so discombobulated that it almost put me in a state of depression. I didn’t understand why she had to leave. As a little girl growing up in church it was always taught God doesn’t make a mistake; however, her death seemed like a great mistake was made. I have many nights of tears, and to this day sometimes find myself crying and missing my sister. Even though I know she is in a better place, to have her tangible was my heart desired.  
     Hilary Stanton Zuinn quoted, “The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief - but the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love”. I find myself sometimes through the night experiencing silent languages. Where my tears speak to my sister telling her I love...