Persuation

I want to persuade you that parents should interfere with their teenagers' lives only in two situations, if there are issues of trust and danger.
Not Everything that Teenagers Say And Do Is Cause For Concern. Parents who do not begin each interaction with their teenager by asking themselves if there is an issue of safety or distrust, find it very difficult to limit the number of fights they participate in. The most common mistake parents make when interfering with their teenager’s life is to be trigger- happy; that is, parents create conflict with their child over too many, unnecessary issues. The most harmless example of choices teenage children make is choices about their physical appearance, such as hairstyle. Parents can also be overly restrictive about the activities they allow their children to be involved in while at home. Life for the teenager who tries to feel free of his parents’ rules can be a constant fight. As a result, teenagers often spend limited time at home.

When to Interfere
There are two situations in which it is always appropriate (good) for parents to engage in a discussion with their children. Parental interference must always happen when a child has a record to be suspicious (distrustful), or if you think that your child may be at risk (in danger).

Issues of Trust
The first situation is when there is a lack of trust between parent and child. Trust becomes an issue when your child’s past behavior shows that he has been dishonest with you. If your silence in the past led your child to make a decision that went against a defined family boundary or expectation you have a right and responsibility to speak up. Scenarios which are related to distrust of a child by his or her parents include: Repeatedly disrespecting the words of parents that they should come home at a certain time, lying about plans with friends, and making promises to parents that don not do. If you child has never done any of these things, you have no reason to distrust...