My Unexpected Love

Ruby Alvarez

9/16/2013

English 101 / Ms. Drew

Essay # - Personal Narrative
My unexpected love

Sometimes we come across a person who changes our whole perspective of life for better or worse. My was when I meet this guy and felt that spark when you meet that someone that could be “the one”.As I sat with my closest friend Andrea on our routine of going to Starbucks one Saturday evening, the suspense at the table didn’t go unnoticed. Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share. As the words tumbled from my mouth, she gave me ‘the look’.
“The guy that I am dating has a child”   “He has what?” Andrea asked.   “As in a product of him?” she added dryly.   “Yes,” I answered, sheepishly.   I knew exactly what she were thinking, as I spoke about my new found love interest and what went on on our first date , and him busing the file that he had a kid. Wasn’t I the same person who vowed to never date a man with a child? Alas, I admit, those were my exact words, but those words were also spoken by a much younger and not so much wiser version of myself. I have learned through maturity and life’s little lessons, that limiting yourself or options because of the checklist of the perfect man or ideal relationship you have etched in your mind doesn’t actually prove to be realistic.   But while it isn’t the ideal situation for me, is dating a guy with a child really all that bad? It doesn’t have to be, of course. It very well depends on the man, and how serious he is about getting into a committed relationship. But getting to know him is what matters, right? When my guy mentioned that he had a child, I admit that the fear factor did set in. You know the one involving the mother. Yes the other woman; the ex who will always be present in both of our lives. So I had to ask myself. Was this really worth getting into? Was he really worth it? There are other men who are single, childless and worth getting to know. Eh… I was up for the challenge, and...