Emotional Intelligence

Brandyn Zea
Research Paper
Billie Puyear
2/27/14
Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and control one’s emotions and to handle others emotions. We all have different personalities, different wants and needs, and different ways of showing our emotions. Navigating through this all takes tact and cleverness - especially if we hope to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence becomes important. Emotional intelligence is a good topic to talk about when bringing up gender and age because it raises questions about what gender has more emotional intelligence? As you get older do you gain emotional intelligence or is it something you either you or you don’t? Also it gives a debate for IQ v. EQ.
When we are children learning about ourselves we start figuring out our emotions towards certain beliefs, situations, and other people, which helps with learning about expressing your emotions and how to comprehend emotions, “ Children learn to express, comprehend, understand and regulate emotions by exchanging their emotions with parents and coevals. Some of them take control of their own and others’ emotions more skillfully due to big differences in individual abilities and their social world. On the other hand, some children lack adequate skills to interpret emotions for achievement in the social world.” (Naghavi, Redzuan 2011)
Along the lines with the quote used above it describes how the gender differences are real in how girls are usually more skillful in how they handle others and control their own emotions and boys usually are less likely to interpret and handle others emotions in the way most girls can. “Since girls get mastery over language faster than boys this causes them to be more experienced in precisely expressing their feelings and more skillful in using words to name emotional reactions and replace words for physical reactions than boys. Boys, for whom emotions expression has not been emphasized, are...